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It is no coincidence that you ended up in a rationally-minded, not-so-sensitive family with your high sensitivity, clairvoyance or clairsentience. It is precisely here that you can learn lessons and work through old pain.
This road presents a number of specific challenges. In this article, I consider both the obstacles and the opportunities that appear on your path. The challenge is ultimately to rediscover yourself, to dig out your true self from the mountain of judgments and non-own energies and restore it.
Old souls, old pain
Many people who are naturally highly sensitive, clairsentient, clairvoyant, clairaudient and/or telepathic incarnate in a place where their sensitivity is not understood. Old souls consciously choose ‘difficult families’ to work out their latest old themes here. Here, through the lack of support, understanding and confirmation, they can face their old pain and learn to trust in themselves.
Your senses work differently
This road presents several specific challenges. When you are sensitive, clairsentient, etc. in a non-sensitive family, you have access to some senses that your family members have not or have barely developed. But because those channels of information come naturally to you (of course you feel what the other person is feeling!) and you are just a baby, a toddler or a child, it is astonishing to you that the others do not share your perception.
Your intuitive statements and your feelings are not recognized or taken seriously. Your experiences can be dismissed as nonsense, fantasy or lies, so at some point, you shut up. In the worst case, you start to doubt yourself and your own perceptions.
In addition, others may feel threatened by your perception, your piercing gaze or statements that come too close to the truth that they themselves do not want to acknowledge. I often come across it: highly sensitive people who instinctively managed to put their finger on the sore spot as a child. They named precisely what adults in their environment did not want to know, which of course was not appreciated or was even punished.
School is deadly boring
The school system is also generally not geared to sensitive people. Education is largely about incorporating other people’s facts and ideas, not about creative and innovative thinking and research. For sensitive and especially intelligent children, that is deadly boring. They often focus their attention in places that are interesting to them: their own dream world, other dimensions, their fantasy. If their school performance falls behind, they can be wrongly seen as ‘stupid’ or given certain labels.
Teachers can feel cornered by a child who sees right through them and exposes their lack of true authority. Highly sensitive children who radiate a lot of light can be subconsciously experienced as a threat by teachers who are not owning their power and hide their own insecurity and pain from themselves. I see that these teachers sometimes exhibit emotional, verbal or energetic aggressive behaviour (or even bullying behaviour) towards such a child, or facilitate other children to bully them.
When you end up, at such a young age, in an environment that does not support your perception and even denies or punishes you, the result is often that you start to doubt yourself and shut down. In addition, your behaviour is often mislabelled and misinterpreted, which can leave you even more confused.
“He’s so quiet, he’s definitely shy.” No, he is processing his impressions on a level that is invisible to you. “She often withdraws into her room; she is not sociable and boring.” No, she needs to recharge after a tiring school day with children and teachers who function at a different frequency than she does. She hasn’t learned to keep to herself yet.
“He’s not going to play football like the other guys—he’s weird.” No, he accesses levels of existence and consciousness that are not accessible to you yet. “She’s so quiet while the others romp through the woods; she is introverted.” No, she makes contact with nature’s beings and communicates soundlessly with the trees.
Doubts and confusion
When you grow up in an environment that doesn’t share your perception and labels your behaviour and personality in a way that doesn’t match your experience, you can start to seriously doubt your own truth: the truth about who you essentially are, the truth of your own perception and the way you perceive the truth with all your senses. You may be adopting some judgments of your environment about yourself. In addition, if you are treated negatively, you can get energies and soul parts from another into your system, which confuses you even more.
The challenge in all of this is to ultimately rediscover yourself. To dig out your true self, your true personality from the big pile of judgments and energies of others and restore it. To reclaim and appropriate the parts of yourself that you have relinquished or hidden.
You can consciously retrieve your true strength, light, spontaneity, joie de vivre, humour, wisdom and all the other qualities that are essentially yours. You can develop the clairsentience and clairvoyance that you had naturally. You can honour the softness that is your own again. You can restore your strength, which is not based on force majeure, but on truth and fearlessness.
Let your love flow again, without dependence on the end result. You can receive nourishment and support from your first mother: the Earth. You can restore the connection with your true soul self and with the Source.
Stand strong and shine
Precisely because the people around you lacked support for you, you went looking for it. You’ve looked for it in books, in movies, in nature, in like-minded people who resonate with your frequency. But in the end, you will find it back in yourself. When you have made that journey and have rediscovered your strength, truth and authority within yourself, you are strong. Then you sail your own course. Then you are able to let your light shine everywhere. And then nothing can throw you off balance.
Help is coming your way
It is a lesson that you could only learn this way. It’s not an easy road. But the universe is always working with your soul to bring opportunities onto your path that support you in this. With synchronicity as a signpost: “What a coincidence that this book, this person, this event, this message just now comes my way!” With your invisible soul family of angels, loved ones from past lives, nature, crystals and animals as your team.
Your own heart always brings you back to the truth about who you really are—a beautiful, powerful soul!
© Wendy Gillissen, M.A. 2022